I F'n Hate Dementia

Dementia is brutal.
It’s messy, unfair, unpredictable, and emotional as hell.

And yet every day, ordinary people step into the chaos and become caregivers — nurses, protectors, translators of a broken brain, and witnesses to a disease that doesn’t play fair.

I F’n Hate Dementia is the book every family wishes they had from day one: honest, clinically grounded, practical, and unafraid to say the things everyone else tiptoes around.

This isn’t a gentle guide.

It’s a truthful one — delivered with compassion, dark humor, and a healthy dose of unfiltered reality.

If you love someone with dementia — or you’re caring for someone right now — this book is your roadmap, your lifeline, and your reminder that you’re not crazy and you’re not alone.

Because dementia is hell. But you? You’re extraordinary.

Written by a Speech-Language Pathologist who has spent years in the trenches of dementia care, this book breaks down:

The stages of dementia — what actually happens and why
What behaviors really mean (and what not to take personally)
Communication strategies and tools that actually work
When home care is enough, when memory care is safer, and how to know
The grief, the humor, the guilt, and the humanity inside the disease

Testimonials

Here are Some Reviews for "I F'n Hate Dementia"

"This book is beautifully written in clear, easy to understand language—not too clinical, and always human. It’s written for real people who love and care for someone with dementia. The author presents each section and chapter in bite-sized chunks that make such a complex subject easier to absorb. She clears up common misconceptions while offering a grounded understanding of what dementia is and isn’t, including the nuances between different types."

Michelle S.

"I F’n Hate Dementia is honest and direct. It captures what it is really like to deal with dementia without trying to make it sound inspiring or poetic. The emotions feel real, especially the frustration, sadness, and helplessness that come with watching someone you love change."

Zack B.

"I would highly recommend this book to anyone on the dementia journey with a loved one. Whether you are just starting or are well into it this book will be so helpful. I would also recommend it to anyone dealing with any long term or terminal illness."

Genia M.

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Dementia is brutal, but you are stronger than you think. Arm yourself with real strategies, real explanations, and real validation from someone who understands what caregiving actually looks like.

Meet the Author

Ashley Ivy is a speech-language pathologist with advanced training in dementia care and caregiver support. She holds a Master’s degree in Communication Disorders from Louisiana State University Health Sciences Center and maintains national certification through the American Speech Language-Hearing Association (ASHA) with her Certificate of Clinical Competence (CCC-SLP).

Ashley has spent most of her professional career working in long-term care, alongside individuals living with dementia and the families who loved them. Through this work, she has witnessed firsthand how dementia reshapes lives, relationships, and identities, and how caregivers are often left to navigate it with far too little honesty or support.

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